So, before you get all bent out of shape because of the life you were raised in, remember your mom was once a little girl also. So many little girls grew up in environments that were not safe and have always wondered if only my dads was here to protect me, my life may have taken a different turn.  These little girls have never gotten any real time with a loving father so they only portrait what they saw. No judgement on their mothers or their mother's mother. We have gone through almost 50 years where, in some cases, the father has been absent in every generations. We can not produce loving caring mothers if there are no strong fathers of the household. This has already be determined.